Changing this 1 word in your thoughts can boost mental toughness and resilience, psychologists say

We hear all the time that it’s much easier to give advice to a friend than to ourselves — and the saying largely holds.

Is that job too stressful to stay in? We’re often too close to the situation to have any sort of objectivity. Yet, if we see the same situation with a friend, the answer comes almost instantly. We have some distance, so we can tell her without hesitation that she needs to quit her job.

This phenomenon doesn’t just hold true with giving advice, but also in how we persist and navigate discomfort.

As a performance coach who has worked with top athletes and business executives, I’ve found that changing the grammar in your self-talk can boost your mental toughness and resilience.

It’s very easy and simple: Switch “I” to “you.”

Create “psychological distance” to boost resilience

Zoom out in your inner dialogue